Why do we start toxic relationships? Is it because we feel we could change the person? Is it because we are seeking and searching for something from deep within?
I am not an expert and this is a discussion so here is my take on reasons we accept toxic relationships.
I believe we first have to remove the coverage (so to speak) to reveal our true identity of who we really are. It will take time to stop allowing the inner demons and inner chatter to control our thoughts which control our decisions. We can start by looking in the mirror and removing all the layers of scars from within, and slowly transform the picture created of who we are from past pain. As one of Michael Jackson’s songs say (I rephrased), to make a change, we have to start by looking at the person staring back at us in that mirror.
I had to stare at myself over and over in the mirror to accept all of me, my imperfections and how to love me more than another physical person.
We have to learn to not self-medicate on alcohol or drugs and release bad habits that keeps us bonded to toxic relationships, and we can start by trying some of the followings:
- Replace the negative conversations you have with self to positive conversations.
- Start embracing yourself by wrapping your arms tightly around you.
- Try not to blame others for your circumstances so you could feel worthy of self.
- Appraise yourself for all accomplishments.
- Try yelling, screaming or some form of physical activity.
- Stop focusing on the faults because the beauty will not appear.
- Be kind to yourself mentally and physically each and every day because you are loved!
Self-love helps with choosing healthy relationships and not accepting abuse of any kind! Your body should be shared only with another who loves you as much as you love yourself. Therefore, it is imperative to love self!
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Have a friend who is in a relationship and find it difficult to leave because she has become accustomed to his behavior even though he is mentally abusive. She is handling it but many times want to leave. Anyway, nothing major.
What’s your take?
Hello Jing,
Thanks for checking out my blog.
As I always say, I am not an expert and this is my take and not advice.
First, when we are in a toxic relationship doesn’t just start there. Other areas In our lives are toxic; therefore, it’s easy to accept or go into toxic relationships.
Toxic relationships are not only opposite sex relationships but also, friendships, jobs etc.
So first, identity the toxic areas in personal life by paying attention to how you treat self.
Let me know once the toxic in own life is identified and we will go from there.
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