My Story...
I have been bullied, ridiculed, judged, picked on, and talked about because of stories the bully created in his/her mind about me. It takes one person who is not confident about themselves to spread their infectious behavior to others because of stories they create.
Today, I am a confident secure self-assured women, and because of my positive qualities and determination bullies use different methods to attempt to tear me down and make me feel alone.
I attended a function and sat at a table with about eight people and it did not matter how nice I was, only one engaged in a conversation with me. The other seven acted as if I was invisible because of the influence the leader had over them. I continued to show kindness because that is the person I am and being accepted by a negative group was not necessary for me to enjoy the event. Because, I am devoted to myself and will not allow others to inject me with their unhappiness.
Bullies are in all walks of life. I had a boss who bullied me because I was too happy, too friendly and a likable person. She moved my seat every three months to annoy me and failed to realize I was at the organization to do a job and the seating arrangement was not a factor. I continued to do my job well and she continued to nitpick. She went as far as pulling up my Metra Train Schedule to check arrival times, and she changed my work hours so I could either be late or arrive 22 minutes early to work. I took and earlier train, stopped by the book store to browse and arrived to work ten minutes before starting time and was ready to work with a clear mind.
I felt bad for my boss because she invested so much of her energy to tear me down, and she could have used that same energy to develop and grow her own life.
I work with others because we have to deal with daily situations, such as, being bullied, being dumped, not getting the A in a class, being cheated on, being the one doing the cheating, being fired, having a negative opinion about self, not being accepted and the list is endless.
My goal is to assist and encourage others that a happier state is attainable and can be accomplished by acknowledging the feelings that triggers the negative reactions.
Life is like riding a bicycle, to keep the balance, we must keep it moving, and I am here to encourage and give support when needed.
We all have some of the same issues and need someone to express our emotions with and I am available to listen and move the energy to a happier mindset.