From my experience, bullies bully both. The bully approaches the low self-esteem person because they identify with the sign of feeling not good enough, the sign of feeling awkward and unloved; therefore, the bully wants to feel loved and accepted. They have developed a mental attitude that in order to feel good enough they have to tear down, criticize or degrade the person who lacks the power to stand up for themselves.
I was bullied when I was timid and did not know how to stand up for myself. I am bullied today because I am confident and positive. The bully has a difficult time relating to feeling confident and uses her power of influence by speaking negatively to change the thoughts of others to gain approval and to feel valued.
When she approaches me, I stand back, smile and keep a consistence disposition and look her right in the eyes and do not give her the power to weaken me.
I stand tall and have an attitude of “I will not allow you to diminish or belittle me” because I am important to me.
How will you rise? I am here and listening!
Very Insightful! I’m going to share this with a few friends!
Do bullies know that they are bullying ?
When I was younger, there was a bully, that would come to our neighborhood.
He didn’t even live there. Whenever he would come around, all of the kids would run indoors with fear. He would “pop” someone in the head for no reason.
I asked him, why did you do that. He responded because I felt like it. He always picked on those that he knew would not and could not defend themselves. He would take money from them among other things. He was a true bully. Needless to say, he died at a very young age.
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Love the sight.
Very enlightening.
Makes you think, was I a bully or was I bullied.
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