I am a Happy Go Lucky person because I feed myself with goodness as soon as I wake each and every morning by being grateful for waking and focusing on all I have. At one point in my life, I wanted everyone around me and who came in contact with me to be as happy and energetic as I and could not understand reasons they were moody and grouchy most of the time. I wanted them to change and experience having a good attitude more often than a crabby one.
- I Criticized their bad habits (as if I did not have any) vs. focusing on the goodness within them.
- I Pointed out their negative word usage or behaviors vs. glorifying the positive.
- I Disapproved of their toxic relationships (as if I did not have any) vs. approving the good relationships.
- I Identified their faults vs. their great characteristics.
How did I get beyond trying to change others?
- By focusing on me and my actions.
- By accepting the person and their faults and knowing I had faults as well.
- By seeing all the goodness in the person.
- By recognizing the energy, I released to the person.
- By knowing that change started with me.
- By understanding the characteristics that attracted me to the person from the beginning.
- By treating others as I wanted to be treated and being conscious of my actions.
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I tried to change my boyfriend and new what I was doing. I new from the beginning things I didn’t like and thought I would change him. He has the same habits three years later and I put up with them and complain to my friends weekly. I don’t know if I will leave him and will probably marry him if he ask. Why will I do that knowing his ways!
You are not alone and give yourself more credit. We all place our vision on what we want and surround ourselves with people having the same vision. For example, you mentioned you complain about your relationship with your friends weekly and your friends probably have the same relationships with their mates. Everyone is in the same place and a larger vision is tough to see.
TRY, not complaining about your mate for seven days
—-take your vision off all the annoyances and place your vision on all the good he does———-
——–if you cannot locate more good than annoyances, continue to love yourself and focus on all your good qualities to locate your strengths to acquire the relationship you truly deserve.
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